Power threats are threats to your value and your esteem. 90% of the time you are not managing physical threats, but threats to your power and your esteem and your value and that is what manages your boundary system. That is what your boundary system is engineered consciously or unconsciously to do, to manage power threats. Does that insight not change the game?! In other words: what is under … Read more about What are Power Threats?
Boundaries
Boundaries are beautiful
Boundaries are beautiful because they set us all free to step into full potential and this is for all involved. You are direct and clean and others know where they are at with you. You will also esteem with people who do the same thing. You can make that happen with this training here. … Read more about Boundaries are beautiful
Boundary Reflection Questions
Who taught you that you can have boundaries? What kind of boundaries did you learn? Did anyone ever come to you and said ‘what awesome healthy boundaries you have – good on you!’ It is hard to find that message in our culture right now. Training is available here. … Read more about Boundary Reflection Questions
Four Factors of Boundary Management
1 An intuitive awareness of current boundaries and lack thereof – this is a factor in boundary management 2 A technical understanding of your current boundary system from a Survival Archetype of Adaptation place 3 Looking at survival, fear and shame – how do you relate to survival, fear, and shame? 4 Esteem and empowerment. What kind of esteem/value do you have? What kind of power do … Read more about Four Factors of Boundary Management
What is a Healthy/Unhealthy Boundary System?
A healthy boundary system is a system of interrelated present time patterns activated by your conscious will that guards your wholeism against threats and violations. An unhealthy boundary system is an outmoded historical subconscious survival pattern that often offers little or no defence to threats that are current. And oftentimes for you to use this outmoded unconscious boundary system you have … Read more about What is a Healthy/Unhealthy Boundary System?
What Is a Boundary?
A boundary is something that indicates limits, sets limits, or certain bounds such as a limiting boundary line. In regards to ‘limits’, a boundary is looked at what we limit to getting into our field, our lives, our space. That is definitely a boundary. We need to reverse it to do a both-end here: it is not just about what we limit getting in, it is also understanding about our own personal limits … Read more about What Is a Boundary?