You can ask yourself simple questions such as: Do they keep their word to themselves? Do they keep their word to other people? If they don’t keep their word to themselves, what makes you think they will keep it with you? Someone can only give you the intimacy that they have with themselves. It’s a simple truth. If you don’t have compassion for yourself, I cannot expect you to have it … Read more about Questions to Ask When Things Get Difficult
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Authenticity
Authenticity is coming from what is true in your experience directly without analysis, without the shame, interpretation, that then shouts ‘listen to the shadow’, or mentalizes an emotion. Authenticity is about all your feelings, being with them, expressing them, it is also about true esteem. True esteem is how you really feel about yourself in this moment ‘right now I feel like crap about myself, … Read more about Authenticity
The Wounded Healer.
There is a wound that doesn’t seem to heal and The Wounded Healer says ‘I am here to help you with the transition – let’s go and find spirit medicine’. And you begin this healing apprenticeship with The Wounded Healer . You start to study healing, go to see a healer, you start to seek medicine for your own poison – the poisons that are being triggered and revealed by a chaos cycle. We have a … Read more about The Wounded Healer.
Boundaries are beautiful
Boundaries are beautiful because they set us all free to step into full potential and this is for all involved. You are direct and clean and others know where they are at with you. You will also esteem with people who do the same thing. You can make that happen with this training here. … Read more about Boundaries are beautiful
Boundary Reflection Questions
Who taught you that you can have boundaries? What kind of boundaries did you learn? Did anyone ever come to you and said ‘what awesome healthy boundaries you have – good on you!’ It is hard to find that message in our culture right now. Training is available here. … Read more about Boundary Reflection Questions
Four Factors of Boundary Management
1 An intuitive awareness of current boundaries and lack thereof – this is a factor in boundary management 2 A technical understanding of your current boundary system from a Survival Archetype of Adaptation place 3 Looking at survival, fear and shame – how do you relate to survival, fear, and shame? 4 Esteem and empowerment. What kind of esteem/value do you have? What kind of power do … Read more about Four Factors of Boundary Management
What is a Healthy/Unhealthy Boundary System?
A healthy boundary system is a system of interrelated present time patterns activated by your conscious will that guards your wholeism against threats and violations. An unhealthy boundary system is an outmoded historical subconscious survival pattern that often offers little or no defence to threats that are current. And oftentimes for you to use this outmoded unconscious boundary system you have … Read more about What is a Healthy/Unhealthy Boundary System?
What is a Boundary Violation?
It is a breach, an infringement, a transgression. Boundary violations are mostly associated with physical or sexual. However, we can experience emotion and psychological ones when someone tries to manipulate and violate you in that way. Boundary violations can be psycho-spiritual when someone starts toying with your belief systems and gets you to believe in something else (Cult leaders are masters … Read more about What is a Boundary Violation?
What Is a Boundary?
A boundary is something that indicates limits, sets limits, or certain bounds such as a limiting boundary line. In regards to ‘limits’, a boundary is looked at what we limit to getting into our field, our lives, our space. That is definitely a boundary. We need to reverse it to do a both-end here: it is not just about what we limit getting in, it is also understanding about our own personal limits … Read more about What Is a Boundary?
Spiritually Mature Adult
As you become a more and more self-connected and empowered spiritually mature adult, you send power to everyone you are connected to. That power hits their system and it doesn’t immediately shift them into more loving beings, in fact it usually amps up their own Fate and Survival Archetypes of Adaptation because they realize you are about to change your status quo and the roles you play in the … Read more about Spiritually Mature Adult